We get it. Guys get a lot of confusing signals when it comes to sex. Part of that comes from mixed vibes or miscommunication. But a few simple truths could make sex feel more natural, thrilling, and connected. 

Here are 12 things many women wish men knew about sex. Take them to heart (and maybe write a few down). They might just change how you move, how you listen, and how you love.

Key Takeaways

• Women often prefer rhythm, confidence, and attention, not just force or size.
  

• A little extra thought, like proper foreplay and lube, can transform the experience far more than you can imagine.
  

• Communication matters: we value consent, subtle cues, and respect for boundaries.
  

• Simple sensuality, like massages, eye contact, and soft moans, often beats flashy grand gestures.
  

• Variety and openness (to toys, light dirty talk, shared fantasies) can deepen trust and pleasure.
  

1. It’s More About Motion Than Size

Let’s clear this up: it’s often the motion of the ocean, not the size of the wave. Women pay attention to rhythm, pressure, and how you move, not the inches. Coming in with the belief that bigger equals better? You might be disappointed. Confidence and attentiveness? Now that’s something that really counts.

2. We Probably Like It Rougher Than You Think

Some of us welcome a bit more edge, like a firmer hand, stronger pressure, and rougher thrusts. But only when we feel safe and connected. Rough can be a turn-on, but it's about the vibe, timing, and open communication.

Watch for the subtle hints, like her pulling you closer, scratching your back, or giving that look that says more. Then check in with a quick, confident question like “Do you want it rougher?” or “Tell me how you want it.” Desire gets hotter when you pair body language with a few well-timed words.

3. There’s A Hidden Pleasure Zone (Hint: It’s Around The Hips)

Here’s a lesser-talked-about fact: many women have a secret “pleasure zone” around the hip/ovary area (just beside the lower end of their hip bone). Adding gentle pressure during penetration can amplify sensations. It’s subtle, often unexpected, and so worth trying.

4. Foreplay & Lube > Rushed Entry

Skip the rush. Start with massages, soft touches, and teasing. Use a lube that doubles as massage oil, like Coconut Love Oil, for more sensual magic. Or for a silky finish that’s compatible with condoms (oil breaks down latex), consider a clean-ingredient silicone-based lube like Dew Më. A little lube goes a long way, making sensations feel more alive and movement a whole lot smoother.

5. A Sexy Mirror Selfie Or Good Sexting Can Set The Mood

Intimacy begins long before you take clothes off. A suggestive mirror selfie, a flirty sext, or a playful text (done with respect) can build anticipation. It tells us you’re thinking about us. That energy carries into the bedroom and sets a different tone.

6. Dick Pics Aren’t Automatically Awesome

Contrary to what some men think, unsolicited dick pics often miss the mark. Many women say they don’t feel sexy receiving them. If you’re going to share something bold, ask first. Communication and consent make all the difference.

7. We Don’t Want a Play-by-Play of Your Past Sexual Experiences

TMI about exes or detailed stories about previous partners can feel uncomfortable in the heat of the moment. Sharing “war stories” during sex often pulls focus and can make someone feel compared or objectified. There’s absolutely a time and place for talking about preferences, experience, or curiosity if she asks, but in the bedroom itself, staying grounded in the here and now and what feels good between the two of you usually lands much better.

8. Confidence, That’s Your Sexiest Accessory

In 2026, what really turns us on is a man comfortable in his skin, unafraid of showing desire, and attuned to what’s happening right now. Confidence doesn’t mean swaggering in and dominating everything. It can mean gentleness. It can mean attentiveness. It’s the difference between being clumsy and owning a moment by laughing the awkward moments off.

9. Soft Moans, Subtle Sounds, Names - They Work

A low moan. Saying her name. A “fuuuck” whispered under your breath. These simple sounds can completely shift the energy. For some of us, hearing you vocalize your pleasure, even quietly, is a HUGE turn-on. It’s intimate. It feels real. It deepens the connection.

10. We LOVE Sex Toys

Yes, sex toys! They don’t replace you, they amplify you. Whether it’s a clitoral vibrator or a beginner-friendly external massager, bringing a toy into the mix can feel explorative, fun, and adventurous. It sends a message: you care about shared pleasure. And if you’re curious, WOO’s sex toy guide has your back.

11. Some Of Us Have Secret Fantasies, And They Want You To Ask

Foot fetishes, food play kinks, light domination… whatever it is, there’s no harm in asking. Some of us expect an invitation. Asking respectfully can open doors. Sometimes the taboo needs a whisper, not a demand. A curious, gentle question can turn the bedroom into a whole new playground.

12. Respect and Communication > Assumptions

Assume nothing, respect boundaries, and read nonverbal cues. Consent isn’t a one-and-done deal; it’s ongoing. When you check in, you prioritize her safety and pleasure. That trust becomes part of the intimacy.

FAQ: Things Women Wish Men Knew About Sex

What do most women value during sex?

Many women value rhythm, connection, and attention over size. They appreciate when a partner stays attentive to their needs and well-being. Pleasure for women often comes from motion, touch, and shared presence rather than just performance.

Should men ask before sending intimate photos?

Yes, consent matters. Some people appreciate flirty selfies or sexting. Others find unsolicited images intrusive or disrespectful. Asking first shows respect, sets boundaries, and demonstrates a willingness to communicate, which sets a much more positive tone.

Is confident behavior more attractive than physical attributes?

Often, yes. Being comfortable in your own skin makes women feel more relaxed and connected. It also helps when you read her energy and communicate to create a safe space for intimacy. Many women find that personality and confidence, expressed through open communication, trump any physical “stat.”

Do women love sex as much as men?

Yes, there are many women with a high libido who enjoy sex just as often as men do. The caveat is that they need to feel comfortable and connected to truly express their sexuality with you.

Final Thoughts

Sex may sometimes feel tricky. But at its core, what most women really want is simple: connection, respect, attention, and presence. Not dick size and definitely not unsolicited photos or bragging about your past sex life.

When you ask before you act, tune in to how she responds and what she actually wants, sex becomes absolutely electric.

So the next time you think you know what your partner wants: pause, ask, and listen. And if you add a bit of Love Oil lube, or even a Mushroom Vibez vibrator to the mix, that might just be the kind of rizz you’re looking for.