Is your crush DTF? Congrats! Whether they’re your Tinder match or you’ve been eye f*cking for years, you probably want your first time together to be stress-free. Don’t worry, we’ve got you. With the right mindset (and a few tricks up your sleeve), sex with a new partner is just like riding a bike ––except this ride is more fun.

These 7 tips are ready to make this ride smooth, sexy, and better than you have been imagining.

#1 Freshen Up 

Nothing kills the mood like feeling self-conscious, but luckily, there’s a cheat code to bypass this little mishap. Before things get steamy, you can take a quick trip to the bathroom to freshen up. 

A splash of water, a spritz of deodorant, and, for bonus points, a wipe down with some Freshies Intimate Wipes will have you feeling like your best self and ready for some serious action. P.S. Wiping down is optional ––there’s nothing wrong (and everything right) with natural scents and tastes!

#2 Use Protection (Seriously, Don’t Skip It)

This is your friendly reminder that protection isn’t just about preventing pregnancies—it’s also about protecting each other from STIs.
“When’s the last time you got tested?” might feel like a mood killer, but it’s way sexier than dealing with the awkwardness of a mystery STI later.

But if that talk feels like a little too much too soon, no judgment—just default to using protection every time. Keep condoms on hand to keep it simple and safe. And no, you’re not “killing the moment” by reaching for one. If anything, it shows you’re a responsible adult who knows how to handle their business.

If you do happen to test positive after the fact, make sure to inform your partner. Bear in mind that if you test positive, it doesn’t mean they will, too. Letting them know is just part of being a responsible sexual partner.

#3 Nail The Foreplay

Great sex doesn’t always start with penetration. Foreplay is where the magic happens. It’s the perfect way to impress your partner while getting comfortable (and extra turned on).

• Start with soft touches, kisses, or whispered compliments.
• Pay attention to their responses—what gives them chills?
• Remember to ask what they like—it’s hot, respectful, and a shortcut to blowing their mind.

Foreplay is basically half the game for most people, especially the ladies. So, take your time, find the clit, explore, and let the anticipation lead the way.

#4 Keep It Light And Fun

Sex is supposed to be fun, not an audition for an unrealistic movie scene. Make jokes, laugh when something clumsy happens, and focus on enjoying the moment.

WOO Tip: Humor can be a huge tension breaker. Accidentally bump heads? Laugh it off with a cheeky “Clearly, we are both way too excited here.” Keeping things light and maintaining confidence helps both of you relax, makes the experience feel less performative, and embraces your imperfections as human beings.

#5 Talk Expectations (Especially If Feelings Are Involved)

If you’ve got feelings for your new partner—or if they’ve hinted at having feelings for you—it’s worth having a quick convo about what this experience means for both of you.

Are you looking for something casual? Are they hoping this turns into a relationship? Getting clarity before hopping into bed can save you from confusion or hurt feelings down the road.

For casual hookups, managing expectations can be as simple as saying, “I’m having a great time with you, but I just want to keep things light right now.” Clear, kind, and drama-free.

#6 Let Go Of Perfection

First times are rarely flawless. Maybe the rhythm is off, or maybe there’s a moment where someone trips over their own pants (it happens to the best of us). Whatever it is, remember this: the goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection.

Let go of any pressure to “perform” and focus on what feels good for you and your partner. When you’re both relaxed and in the moment, everything flows better.

#7 Reflect, But Don’t Overthink

Afterward, take a sec to enjoy the post-sex glow. If you’re into cuddling, go for it. If snacks and TV are more your thing, do that.

And if things didn’t go exactly how you imagined? Don’t stress. Every new experience is a chance to learn what works for you and your partner. If it was great, let them know. A quick “That was amazing” can go a long way in building intimacy and confidence.

Final Thoughts On Sex With A New Partner

Having sex with a new partner doesn’t have to be a big production. With a little preparation, open communication, and a good sense of humor, you’ll experience sex that’s fun, safe, and rewarding like it’s meant to be.

So, grab those condoms, get some foreplay on, and remember: the best sex isn’t about perfection. Now go forth and enjoy yourself—you’ve got this!