Looking For An Erotic Relationship Boost?
Move over Netflix & Chill, Porn awaits.
Chances are you’ve dabbled with watching porn on your own. Maybe you were even surprised by what turned you on, something you had never thought of yourself. Your partner may have even had a similar experience. But have you ever considered watching with your babe?
Consider this your sign to change out your beloved Netflix show with something a bit more erotic…because Netflix is so last year.
While previously much of porn has been surrounded by shame and stigma, today, incredible and ethical companies are stepping up to change the way we experience porn. For some, porn can be the exact erotic boost their relationship is desperately seeking.
Sexologist Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the @SexWithDrJess podcast, and psychotherapist Rachel Wright, LMFT, shared that watching porn with your partner can be a relationship win in ways that certainly include but also extend far beyond sexual pleasure. “In my practice, I encourage couples to watch porn together quite frequently,” says Wright.
*Researches benefits of porn in a relationship* We see you, don’t worry we did the same.
Ready to spice up your nighttime viewing? Here are our top tips & tricks for introducing porn into your relationship.
#1- Introducing the conversation
Pay attention to the time and the place you spark the conversation. Make sure you are in a comfortable place and have adequate time to discuss. Try suggesting porn as an idea that might be fun to explore together, and ask your partner what they think. You may also casually bring up the concept of porn and then segue into the idea of watching together.
WOO Tip: Pay attention to your partner's body language and energy around the conversation. It should be quite obvious to see if it is something that excites them or something they aren’t quite interested in.
#2- Porn is not a threat to your partner
It is important to realize that many people are hesitant toward porn because they don’t understand the objective. Oftentimes they can see porn as a threat, concerned that it involves other people outside of your relationship.
It is important to understand if your partner is viewing porn from a jealous standpoint. Try to communicate that your motive is to find a way to spice up your relationship and they should not be threatened.
#3- Figure out where your interests overlap, without shame
So your partner is on board, now is the time to figure out where your interests overlap! It is important to make sure you both are on the same page and have a general idea of what you will watch together.
A great time to discuss is laying in bed with your partner. Communicate what turns you on, what styles you like, and what is off-limits. The conversation might get hot and steamy, making it the perfect time to try watching :)
Another way is to try sending each other links to videos you like without judgment to see where your preferences align.
Most importantly, don’t shame your partner if your interests do not align. You may not be turned on by the same things, and that is ok! Having the conversation will prevent any surprises and judgment. It is ok to communicate your boundaries, but be careful to avoid shaming your partner.
Woo Tip: If you need help deciding what porn to pick, try these tips from our friends at afterglow.
#4- Our Top Porn Recommendations
Afterglow- An ethical porn site that is founded + made by women, yay! Ranging from guided masturbations, partner exercises, and behind-the-scenes content, afterglow is a great place to find content.
Try Quinn- Two words- Audio. Porn. Yes, it exists and it's totally awesome. If your partner is a bit more hesitant to watch porn, consider listening to it. An array of voices and scenes are available and will 100% blow your mind.
MakeLoveNotPorn- If you are really getting into the porn scene, consider creating your own content with your partner (or just watching it). MakeLoveNotPorn provides videos that are consensual, contextualized, and porn-cliche free.
Woo Tip: If you are trying something new, don’t skip on the lube. It is always important to ease into it :) Our Coconut Love Oil is the perfect companion whether you’re looking to pour, rub, massage, finger, grind, throw, or foot for all we care.
#5- Pillow Talk
This part is oftentimes forgotten and almost as important as the activity itself. Check in with your partner… How did it feel to watch porn together? Do you want to do it again? What will enhance the experience next time?
If this got your creative juices flowing, porn might be just what you were missing. Happy watching.