The Perfect Cum Down After Sex. Pillow Talk 101.

We’ve all heard the phrase “pillow talk,” but what does it really mean? In general, pillow talk is defined as “intimate conversations in bed.” For us, it means furthering intimate connections before & after sex.

Often overlooked, pillow talk is one of the most important parts of building an intimate relationship. Not only does it strengthen your sensual bond with your partner, but it also opens up playful, fresh, and exciting conversations.

While pillow talk can exist completely without sexual contact, we’ve found that engaging in meaningful pillow talk before & after intimacy can work wonders for your relationship.

Why you may ask? Sex releases magical hormones from our bodies- oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine. Oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle hormone” or “love hormone,” makes people feel far more attached post-coitus, as does vasopressin. Dopamine, of course, just makes us feel awesome.

After you’ve come down from your post-sex high, save some time for connecting even deeper.

Initiating pillow talk

Make sure you’re in a physical position where you both feel safe and comfortable and can see each other’s eyes. Sexual wellness expert Megwyn White explains, “you don’t want to start this conversation without some kind of physical intimacy.” "Touch will help ground your interaction and allow for more empathetic listening and sharing.”

Woo Tip: If you want to start the pillow talk before intimacy, lightly rub your partner's back and arms as you chat. Initiating the soft touches will help them relax into the moment.

Focus on having a candid conversation

Post-sex, try discussing the intimate experience you just had. Go back and forth with your partner sharing details of what you liked, what you really liked, and something you want to try in the future. Now is the time to open up in a place that is a lot less intimidating.

The act of going back and forth and recapping your experience can be an opportunity to better understand what is enjoyable for both you and your partner.

Don’t forget to sandwich

If there is something that you want to improve during your intimacy, now is a good time to bring it up. But…we recommend using the sandwich method : begin with positive feedback, then offer something you wish to improve, and end by following with another positive from the experience.

Try something like: “I liked when you spanked me, but next time can you start lighter? It really turned me on, but I think a little lighter will satisfy me even more.”

Other ways to indulge in pillow talk

Try telling your partner how hot they looked in the heat of the moment. Maybe even compliment their kissing, or emphasize how good they are at giving oral sex.

Phrases such as, “I loved when you traced your finger up my entire leg,” or asking “How did you manage to do that with your finger? It felt so good” are effective ways to get the ball rolling.

WOO Tip: If you want to keep the vibes hot and steamy, play Nightcap in bed with your partner. It might be the missing piece of the puzzle to make you and your partner feel ultra-connected.

Pillow talk without the talk

Non-verbal communication counts too! Physical touch can be just as impactful as verbal affirmations. You may try spooning your partner, tracing their back with your fingers, and so on. Any way of showing affection that keeps the energy flowing counts!

Throw on your Spank Me Robe and start with one of these pillow talk techniques.