Vitamin D, please!
~Single Summer Babe~ has entered the chat
Steamy summer romance novels exist for a reason. I mean, there truly is no better time to be single than in the summer. Tropical travels, endless bottles of rosé, local music, and glowing skin.
Now is your time to manifest a steamy summer of love, or just a f*ck ton of fun. No matter your fantasies, we’re rooting for you. We’ve rounded up our top tips and tricks for navigating the summer romance scene.
Consider this your crash course in being irresistible this summer.
#1- Be a Yes Person
We are firm believers that what is meant for you will come to you. So get used to saying YES. Next time a friend invites you to an event say yes without hesitation. Unless you really can’t… which we get, but TBH, you’ll never regret putting yourself out there (in a safe way, of course).
Accept the opportunities that come to you, who knows who you may meet, or where you will go. You might just end up basking under the Italian sun with an Aperol Spritz in hand and a beautiful man next to you. *Sighs in Italian*
#2- Open Body Language
The more open your body language, the more likely someone will feel comfortable coming up to you. You don't want to have anything blocking your body, be it your drink, crossed arms, or a barstool.
Focus on holding your drinks down low, away from your chest, the area considered to be your pleasure zone. According to body language expert Blanca Cobb, your pleasure zone is from your hips all the way down to your feet. Open yourself up to new things this summer, physically & mentally.
#3- The Approach
SPOTTED. So you found a hottie that you can’t take your eyes off of… We get it. Initiation can be the most difficult part for many!
First things first, never interrupt a conversation. Find a natural way to grab their attention and get their eyes on you. Perhaps you are at a bar, find a casual way to spark a conversation about the game on TV or the bar in general. Or try and hold direct eye contact for 4-5 seconds and then look away. Make your run-in feel serendipitous. Make them want to come to you.
Once you’ve begun talking make sure you are torso to torso. This means, you are pleasure zone to pleasure zone, “this sends a message of real strong familiarity," says Cobb.
If you’re feeling flirtatious, try touching their arm or gently edging into their personal space to turn up the heat. You can look at their mouth. As Cobb says, it sends a message of sensuality.
Finally, Introduce yourself before it’s too late. Oftentimes we can go an hour talking and never exchange names. Then before you know it, the bar closes and you lose sight of whom you’ve been talking with.
#4- How to secure the hookup
Now that you’re feeling some type of way, the question is what is your next move? If your end goal is a hookup, here are some tips…
Once again, eye contact is your friend (but not too much, please don’t be creepy and blame us). Say you have already chatted and you’re back with your friends- try to make eye contact across the room so bae knows you are interested.
You may also dance together, buy them a drink, etc. But if you want to set yourself apart, make friends with their friends. Start casual conversations with their friends, because friends give a sh*t about who their friend goes home with.
Last but not least, if it feels right and they’re matching your energy, invite them to do something. Remember, don’t spend the whole time with them, spread yourself out by chatting with your friends and creating a bit of a chase.
#5- Looking to take 'em on a date?
So you’ve got a date with bae, now where will you go? Having a spot is crucial. Hone in on a spot you are comfortable and know well, a place that you resonate with.
Having a spot takes a lot of the pressure off of a first date and it can act as a conversation starter if things get slow. Consider sharing why you love the place, or how you found it, it will make someone feel as though they have known you longer.
Perhaps a romantic sunset at the beach you grew up going to. Maybe even a location only the locals know about, maybe it's a secret pond or the best ice cream. Impress your date with a spot they will never forget, it might just be the beginning of your summer love story.
#6- Always Be Prepared
It’s true, they come when you least expect it. That's why you will not catch us leaving home without a Freshies wipe on hand. C’mon, who doesn’t want to smell like a vanilla cupcake down-there?
Pro tip: Don't be afraid to whip out your Coconut Love Oil. You might just introduce bae to their new favorite product.
This is your summer. Now go have some fun and report back!