Ever wondered why some days you’re ready to pounce on your partner and others you’d rather binge-watch reality TV in sweatpants? Blame it on your menstrual cycle—because your hormone levels are running the show.

Your sexual desire isn’t random; it’s directly tied to the phases of the menstrual cycle. From the oh-my-god-touch-me-now moments to the not-even-a-little-bit-interested phases, your body is shifting gears based on estrogen and progesterone levels.

Let’s track your cycle, decode your libido, and figure out the best ways to navigate shark week and beyond.

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Your Sex Drive

Your menstrual cycle isn’t just about your period. It’s a hormonal rollercoaster that impacts everything from your sexual arousal to your energy levels. Here’s a breakdown of what’s happening in each phase.

Follicular Phase (Days 1–14) 

Your period starts, and while you may not be in the mood at first (hello, menstrual cramps), things start heating up as estrogen levels rise. By the end of this phase, you’re naturally lubricated, feeling sexy, and craving intimacy.

Best time for: Slow, sensual build-ups. Think foreplay-heavy sessions, a warm oil massage with Coconut Love Oil, or even some solo time with Vibez clitoral vibrator—because who says you need a partner to enjoy the ride?

Ovulation (Around Day 14–16)

This is when things get wild. Your body is biologically wired to want sex the most during ovulation. Luteinizing hormone surges, estrogen and testosterone peak, and your sexual desire skyrockets.

Best time for: High-energy, passionate sex. If there’s ever a time to let loose and try something new (ahem, sex during your period isn’t the only way to switch things up), this is it.

Luteal Phase (Days 16–28)

After ovulation, progesterone takes over, and things start to shift. Some people feel more emotionally connected and crave intimacy, while others experience a dip in sexual arousal.

Best time for: Gentle, intimate sex. If you’re feeling more emotional than turned on, mutual masturbation or a steamy shower sesh can help keep the connection without the pressure.

Menstruation (Days 1–7)

Yes, you can have sex on your period. Sex during your period might sound messy, but it’s actually a great time for intimacy. Increased blood flow can heighten sensitivity, and orgasms may help relieve menstrual cramps.

Best time for: Shower sex, towel-down quickies, or taking advantage of the fact that your body is naturally lubricated.

Navigating Period Sex Like a Pro

Okay, let’s talk about period sex. Some people love it, some avoid it like the plague, and others are curious but don’t know where to start. The truth? Sex during your period can be just as satisfying (if not more so) than sex at any other time of the month.

Why You Should Consider It:

• Increased Blood Flow: Can make orgasms stronger and ease menstrual cramps.
• Extra Lubrication: You’re naturally lubricated, which means smoother, more effortless pleasure.
• Heightened Sensitivity: Your cervix is lower, and your vaginal tissues are more sensitive—leading to deeper sensations.

How to Keep It Mess-Free:

Use a dark towel or sex blanket: Place it underneath you to catch any spotting.
Opt for shower sex: Water washes away any mess instantly—plus, it’s steamy AF.
Try period-friendly products: Soft cups or menstrual discs allow for mess-free penetration.
Communicate: If you or your partner feel weird about it, just talk about what you’re both comfortable with.

And if you still don’t love the idea of period sex? Mutual masturbation and oral stimulation with a barrier (like a dental dam) are solid alternatives to keep the pleasure going.

How to Work With (Not Against) Your Cycle

Your hormone levels dictate your mood, energy, and libido, so why not lean into it? Here’s how to maximize pleasure at each stage of your cycle.

Tracking Your Cycle

Keeping tabs on where you’re at in your cycle can help you anticipate changes in your sexual desire.

Using the Right Lube

Your natural lubrication fluctuates throughout your cycle. If dryness is an issue, Coconut Love Oil, our oil-based lube, will keep things slick and sexy.

Adjusting Your Sex Routine

Some days, you want slow and intimate; other times, you’re ready for a full-blown marathon. Pay attention to what your body wants, and don’t be afraid to switch things up.

Sex, Hormones, and Your Health

While your sexual arousal changes throughout the month, certain factors can throw your cycle off balance.

Birth Control and Sex Drive

Certain birth control methods can impact sexual desire, especially those that alter estrogen and progesterone levels. If your libido has taken a dive since starting a new form of birth control, talk to your doctor about adjusting your options.

What To Do If Birth Control Kills Your Sex Drive

Switch Up Your Method: Not all birth control options affect libido the same way—talk to your doctor about trying a different type.
Add External Stimulation: If vaginal dryness is an issue, a natural lubricant like Coconut Love Oil can make everything feel better.
Consider Non-Hormonal Options: If you’re really struggling, barrier methods like condoms or a copper IUD keep you protected without altering your hormone levels.

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Your cervix is more open during ovulation, making you more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections. Safe sex isn’t just about avoiding pregnancy—it’s about protecting your sexual health. Use condoms, get tested regularly, and make sure your partner does too.

Balancing Your Hormones

If your libido feels totally out of sync, lifestyle factors like diet, stress, and sleep can all play a role. Supporting your hormone levels with balanced nutrition, exercise, and stress management can help keep your sex life on track.

Final Thoughts Menstrual Cycles & Sexual Desire

Your menstrual cycle is a roadmap to better, more fulfilling intimacy. Whether you’re at peak sexual desire or in a slower phase, listening to your body and working with your hormones can help you feel confident, connected, and totally in tune with your pleasure.

So, go ahead—track your cycle, stock up on lube, and embrace every phase. Your body will thank you.