Bringing sex toys into your relationship doesn’t have to feel like some awkward "we need to talk" moment. In fact, it should be fun, exciting, and full of "holy sh*t, why didn’t we do this sooner?" energy.

Because let’s be real—sex toys aren’t here to replace your hubby. They’re here to turn partnered sex into something even more magical, adding extra sensations for the both of you.

Whether you're looking to introduce sex toys to your husband, partner, or whoever is lucky enough to get it on with you, this guide will walk you through it—without the weirdness. P.S. You absolutely do not need permission to use sex toys for self-pleasure.

How To Introduce Sex Toys Without Making It Weird

Sex toys are like adding salt and lemon to your shot of tequila. It's about taking the tequila more than the salt and lemon, right? The key takeaway is this: Sex toys don’t change the core experience, but it's more fun with something a little extra. If anything, it shows you care about making sex even better—we promise it feels good for both of you.

1. Start The Conversation When You're NOT Naked

Bringing up a vibrator mid-sex is like suggesting skydiving while you’re already on the plane without a parachute—probably not the best time. Instead, pick a casual, low-pressure moment to mention it.

Ways to say it: 

• “I’ve been loving our sex life lately, and I thought it could be hot for us to try something new together.” 
• “Have you ever thought about using toys together?” 
• “I was thinking about something that might be exciting for us to try…” 

What not to say:

• "I think we need a vibrator because I don’t always finish." (Cue defensive mode.)

The key? Make it about adding fun—not fixing a problem.

2. Normalize It & Make It An Ongoing Conversation

The key to making sex toys a natural part of your sex life is keeping the conversation open, playful, and pressure-free.

Here’s how to talk about it—from casual check-ins to adding new toys over time.

If Your Partner Is Unsure About Toys

Not everyone is on board right away, and that’s okay. The goal is open dialogue, not persuasion. Here’s how to navigate hesitation:

• Acknowledge their feelings.
  “I get that this might feel new or different. I just want it to be something fun for both of us.”
• Reassure them it’s not about replacing anything.
  “I love what we do already—this is just about adding something extra, not changing what works.”
• Suggest trying it with them first.
  “What if we started slow? We could pick one together and ease into it.”

Right After Using a Toy for the First Time

The first post-play convo is key. Keep it positive, low-pressure, and curiosity-driven rather than treating it like a performance review.

Try this:

• “That was fun—what did you think? Anything you want to try differently next time?”
• “I loved [insert sensation]. What felt best for you?”

WOO Tip: Keep the focus on what felt good, rather than what “worked” or “didn’t work.” That keeps the convo flirty and exploratory instead of awkward or critical.

How to Keep the Conversation Going

Bringing up sex toys once and then never mentioning them again? That’s like going on a dream vacation and refusing to look at the pictures. Here’s how to normalize sex toys in everyday moments:

• Make them easy to access (not buried in a back closet like some forbidden relic). Having them in a drawer or bedside box makes them part of your routine.
• Bring it up in casual moments—not just in the heat of the moment.
  • “I was thinking about last night… that was hot. Wanna try it again soon?”
  • “I read about a new toy that does [X]—what do you think?”
• Suggest adding something new in a playful way.
  • “I feel like we’ve got this one mastered. Ready to level up?”
  • “That was fun—what if we tried adding [new toy] next time?”

There’s no rush, no pressure—just exploration at your own pace. Whether you stick with one favorite or slowly build a collection, the key is keeping the conversation open so you both feel comfortable and excited.

3. Pick The Right Toy (Hint: Start Small)

When introducing toys into your sex life, the key is to ease into it together. It’s not about replacing anything—it’s about enhancing what you already love. The best way to make it feel exciting (instead of intimidating) is to treat it like an adventure you’re both on.

Step one: Pick it out together. Whether you’re browsing a sex shop IRL or scrolling online from the comfort of your bed, shopping as a couple makes the experience more open, fun, and pressure-free. It gives you both a say in what feels right and keeps the excitement building.

Step two: Start simple. If your partner is new to toys, diving straight into a rabbit vibrator that looks like it belongs in a sci-fi movie might be a bit much. Instead, look for something that feels like a natural extension of what you already enjoy.

And if we may humbly brag for a sec, our Disco Stick G-Spot Vibrator is the ultimate beginner-friendly pick. It literally looks like a disco stick, offers deep penetration and clitoral stimulation and is sleek enough to feel like an effortless addition to the mix.

Moral of the story? Take your time, explore together, and—most importantly—have fun.

Tip: Educate Yourself First

If you're bringing up sex toys, you should probably know what’s out there. Do some research (the fun kind of homework) and check out the different types of sex toys.

💡 Things to learn before bringing it up:

• What different toys do (a bullet vibrator vs. a rabbit vibrator)
• What works for different body parts (clitoral, G-spot, prostate, etc.)
• What’s beginner-friendly (maybe don’t start with a full BDSM kit)

4. Start With Foreplay

If foreplay was a cupcake, sex toys are the cherry on top. (But if you want the taste of real cupcakes, our oil-based lube is that b*tch).

Foreplay breaks the ice as naturally as possible when introducing sex toys. 

We know what you’re thinking… and yes, penetration plus sex toys is as O-worthy as it gets! If you want sex toys to be part of the main course, just chat about it openly to make sure your partner is down. 

Just to reiterate: Sex toys should be introduced as adding to the fun—not fixing a problem.

5. Let Them Take the Lead

Let them take control of the toy first, especially if they’re hesitant. Just hand it to them and have them hand it to you. 😉 This removes any pressure and allows your partner to see how much you enjoy it.

Once they feel comfortable, you’re free to switch roles and explore the sexy new sensations together.

Common Concerns & How to Address Them

What if my partner feels inadequate?

Reframe it as teamwork. It’s about enhancing what already feels amazing. Tell them how it benefits them, too. Vibrating cock rings, prostate massagers and couples’ vibrators prove this isn’t just about one person.

What if they say no?

Respect their hesitation—but don’t assume it’s a permanent no. Give them time to warm up to the idea. Suggest a baby step. Even a blindfold or silky restraints can introduce new sensations without jumping into the deep end.

What if we don’t know what to try first?

Check out reviews from sex educators. They often recommend beginner-friendly options for couples. We also recommend that you start with something small. Cock rings, remote-controlled panties, or small clitoral vibrators can add subtle stimulation without taking over the experience.

Final Thoughts: The Key to Bringing Sex Toys Into Your Relationship

✔️ Make it about mutual pleasure. This isn’t about “fixing” anything—it’s about making an already amazing sex life even better.
✔️ Start slow and make it fun. The goal is to introduce sex toys in a way that feels exciting, not pressured.
✔️ Keep the conversation going. The best sex lives evolve—this is just the beginning.

So, ready to turn up the heat? Introducing sex toys might just be the best decision your bedroom has ever seen.