The Top 12 Mutual Masturbation Positions
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Try using your hands, we dare you.
Masturbation is kind of like tennis. When you play solo, it’s fun, but having someone to play with makes things much more enjoyable – and you both win. In this article, we’ll swap the courts for the bedroom and the tennis balls for the… nevermind. These noteworthy tips are here for the next time you’re ready to get handsy.
Mutual masturbation is a great way to build intimacy between you and your partner, show them what you enjoy, and can offer more control to climax together than penetration alone. Whether masturbation is the appetizer or main event during your next romantic evening, you’ll want these 12 tips in your playbook, so keep reading.
Wondering What Mutual Masturbation Is?
Mutual masturbation is a term that covers two options:
- You and your partner each use your hands or toys– or both– to please yourselves together at the same time.
- You and your partner use your hands or toys– or both– to please one another at the same time.
Whether toys, penetration, or multiple partners are involved is all up to you, and here at WOO, we believe a little bit of each is the way to go to see what you prefer. After all, finding your groove is about experimenting, right?
1. Face-to-Face Seated
This position is your front-row seat to a personalized peep show. Sitting across from each other, legs intertwined, you’re in the perfect spot for intense eye contact and intimate touching. This up close and personal position is hot because it lets you focus on the experience of watching your partner squirm with pleasure.
Why It’s Hot: This great position is all about being intimate in a new way without being too intimidating or complicated.
WOO Tip: Don’t forget to tease those erogenous zones while you’re at it! A little nibble on the neck or a whisper in the ear will turn up the heat.
2. Side-by-Side
For nights where you’re curled into bed with your partner pretending to fall asleep, you’ll want this move in your repertoire. It’s an OG, but it’s a classic for a reason.
Lying side by side, with both your sides facing the same direction, you can easily start pleasuring yourself and reach over to your partner as well. Skin-on-skin contact, enhanced intimacy, and feeling closer to the person next to you…check, check, and check.
Why It’s Hot: It’s a fuss-free way to be handsy with yourself and easily switch over to your partner.
WOO Tip: Bring on a new level of pleasure with sex toys like this G-spot vibrator. A small vibe can work absolute wonders on the senses when trying out this move.
3. Spooning
There’s something incredibly intimate about spooning, and it is one of the comfiest and sexiest ways to connect with your partner, even if you’re using your hands. The partner from behind has easy access to pleasure-enhancing spots, making it a perfect position for them to please themselves and the little spoon simultaneously.
Why It’s Hot: This position is the divine combination of getting cozy and getting it on. As the little spoon, you won’t know whether your partner’s hands or their moans in your ear will turn you on more.
WOO Tip: Kissing your partner’s neck in this position is absolutely essential.
4. Missionary With A Twist
This position is a spicy take on the classic sex position. Have one partner lie down while the other sits in front of them, pleasing themselves and their partner simultaneously. This angle gives you both a great view of the action and allows for easy access for later fun when you can’t hold out any longer.
Why It’s Hot: Got a dom-sub relationship? It’s the perfect position for the giving partner to be more dominant in the bedroom.
WOO Tip: Adding some water-based lube to the mix will make this experience wetter and so much better.
5. Standing Face-to-Face
Getting frisky with face-to-face eye contact could melt butter. Yes, it’s that hot. This position is intense and allows for full-on connection without having to worry about positioning or support. You can stand in front of each other and explore with your hands, sending waves of pleasure.
Why It’s Hot: It’s perfect for when you’re too impatient to make it to the bed. Whether you’re in the kitchen, the bathroom, an elevator…, or anywhere else you find yourselves, this position is full of heated passion.
WOO Tip: Add a little variety by alternating between standing and kneeling in front of your partner.
6. Lap Sitting
Imagine your partner sitting on your lap, facing you, while their hands work their magic on the both of you. It’s close, it’s personal, and it’s the perfect position to get a sensual makeout sesh going.
Why It’s Hot: Whatever form of mutual masturbation you prefer, this position allows for them all (and are equally sexy at that).
WOO Tip: This position is ideal for incorporating sex toys like a clitoral vibrator. A vibe can take things from zero to 69 in seconds.
7. Opposite Directions
This one’s a new POV— both partners lie head-to-toe, giving you both a view from an angle you might not have considered before. This position is best for some partner-to partner action instead of self-pleasing.
Why It’s Hot: Super comfy, super sexy, and all about exploring new angles.
WOO Tip: Use this as an opportunity to tease and please those often overlooked sensitive zones, like the inner thighs or the backs of the knees.
8. Shower Session
This is one waterfall you will want to chase. Take things to the bathroom for mutual masturbation that will have you soaking wet - literally. Typical sex positions and showers can be a somewhat challenging task, but hands will never fail, especially when one is grabbing onto the soap holder for dear life.
Why It’s Hot: New locations bring out the adventurous side and a bunch of new O-worthy sensations.
WOO Tip: If you decide to take it to third base after masturbating, you’ll want to use oil-based lube to keep things smooth and sexy.
9. Across The Room
Distance makes the heart grow fonder—and sometimes hornier. Watching your partner from across the room can be incredibly erotic, especially when you can’t touch them (yet).
Why it’s hot: You’ll quickly gravitate to your partner. Anticipation is one powerful tool that’ll make sex even more sensational and lead to quicker, more exciting O’s (who doesn’t want that?)
WOO Tip: Perfect for a little tease when you’re in a long-distance relationship —this move cranks up the heat and gives you all the visual thrills during those X-rated Facetime calls.
10. Handsy Sixty-Nine
Wine me, dine me, sixty-nine me. If you’d like to ease each other with your hands instead of oral sex, there’s no stopping you from still making use of the classic partner-on-top, head-to-toe sex position.
Why It’s Hot: You’re moments away from oral sex if you’d like to switch things up.
WOO Tip: With a sexy imagination, you could have guessed what we’d suggest here: Do the thing! Alternate between pleasing with your hands and mouth for an all-around good time.
11. Against The Wall
Standing up and pressing your partner against the wall is about control and intensity. It’s a physically and emotionally powerful position, making it perfect for those moments when you just can’t wait.
Why It’s Hot: So simple, yet so sexy.
WOO Tip: Feel free to pick your partner up with their legs wrapped around you to take them to another dimension as you please them.
12. Mutual Toys
Bringing toys (one or multiple) into mutual masturbation is a guaranteed way to hit all the right spots and make you and your partner climax like it’s nobody’s business. Plus, if you’ve been looking to introduce sex toys into your relationship, masturbation can be the perfect intro to discover what you’re both into.
Why It’s Hot: Sex toys are never unexciting, and a little extra element of pleasure goes a long way.
WOO Tip: Don’t be afraid to experiment with different kinds of toys—whether it’s a vibrator, a butt plug, or something a bit kinkier, there’s no wrong way to play!
