You’re probably thinking of cinematic steam, water flowing down your body, soap suds sliding down thighs... reality? You’re shivering, your partner is trying not to slip, and your shampoo just fell off the rack.

Good news: it doesn’t have to be that way. With the right game plan, shower sex positions, and a splash of lube, shower sex can absolutely live up to the fantasy.

We’re giving you the lowdown on how to make shower sex work for you (and the slippery floor), plus six steamy shower sex positions to try that won’t leave you bruised, cold, or questioning your life choices.

Key Takeaways

• Shower sex can be difficult, but with the right game plan, it can be effortless and sexy.

• Use non-slip mats and waterproof chairs to help prevent slipping.

• Always use silicone-based lube, as hot water strips natural moisture.

• The best shower sex positions include standing, supported, and seated variations for balance and intimacy.

• Experiment with shower heads, waterproof vibrators, touch, and oral sex. Not every session needs to end in penetration.

• Even the hottest sex can feel clumsy at first; embrace the chaos.

What’s Shower Sex Like in Reality?

You’re working with hot water, slippery surfaces, awkward angles, and not a lot of cushion for the pushin’. That doesn’t mean it’s doomed (once you know, you know), it just means you need a little prep work.

Here’s what you need to make shower sex better than ever:

• Traction: Consider a textured mat if your floor is too smooth to handle the sex scene you’ve been trying to check off your sex bucket list.

• Lube. Always: Water washes away natural lubrication. That “hot shower” you’re moaning in? It's probably making things drier down there. Choose a natural, water-resistant lube like Dew Mȅ (bonus: it only has two clean, body-safe ingredients!)

• Communication: If something’s uncomfortable, say so. Your body knows what it likes and what it doesn’t.

6 Shower Sex Positions That Actually Work

Whether you're new to shower sex or just tired of the “standing and hoping for the best” routine, these positions bring the heat, without breaking your neck.

1. The Wall Slide

This one is a classic for a reason. One partner stands facing the wall, feet shoulder-width apart, hands braced. The other approaches from behind for penetration (or oral, if you're feeling extra). 

It’s easy-access, has built-in stability, and the hot water running down your back feels golden. Paired with a silicone-based lube for extra slip and slide? Chef’s kiss.

2. The Standing Ovation

In this shower position, face your partner, and have them lift one of your legs (rest it on their hip or the built-in shower ledge). Use your arms around their neck for balance. This one feels extra intimate and passionate (which is kinda the point of shower sex, right?)

3. The Wet Doggy 

Doggy, but make it *wetter.* One partner simply bends over, the other enters, and you proceed to have the best sex of your life. Bonus points for using the stream from the shower head or clitoral vibrator as extra sexual stimulation.

4. Shower Queening

You stand while your partner squats or kneels in front of you, while giving you the best oral sex you could imagine. Just make sure you're rinsed off so no one ends up tasting your 3-in-1 body wash! P.S. stimulation from a waterproof vibrator works here, too.

5. The Lap Dance

If you have a shower bench, use it to its full potential. One partner sits while the other straddles. It’s like sex in a chair, but wetter. 

No bench? A plastic chair won’t break the rules. But you will.

6. The Rub-a-Dub

Standing face to face, use your hands to explore each inch of each other’s bodies. Mutual masturbation is underrated TBH, and when you add a waterproof vibrator to the mix, it’s just pure magic.

Tips to Level Up Your Shower Sex Game

So you’ve nailed the basics. Now let’s level it up with a few tips that’ll keep things hot without turning into a blooper:

• Temperature check. Crank it too hot and you’ll feel more boiled lobster than sex goddess. Keep the water warm enough for steam, cool enough for stamina.
  

• Start soapy, end slippery. Wash each other down first, then rinse off before playtime. Soap makes things squeaky, not sexy. That’s where lube comes in.
  

• Tag-team towel duty. Keep a fluffy towel right outside the shower for a quick dry-off after the fun. Having your partner dry you off is an aftercare practice you don’t want to miss.
  

• Props welcome. A detachable shower head doubles as a sensual toy (yes, we went there). Adjust the pressure and angle for a little extra stimulation while your partner holds a position. A waterproof vibrator would be even better though!

Shower Sex FAQ

What’s the best lube for shower sex?

Look for a natural, long-lasting formula that holds up in water. Silicone-based lubes are a shower sex must-have, even if you’re using condoms.

Isn’t water enough lube?

Nope. In fact, hot water strips your natural lubrication, leaving you dry and more prone to discomfort. Always lube up before getting down.

How do I make standing positions more comfortable?

Use the wall for support, go slow, and communicate. Hands on the wall is a top pick for stability and stimulation.

Is it safe to have sex in the shower?

Yes, just take precautions. Use non-slip mats, communicate, and avoid sudden moves.

Can shower sex increase intimacy?

Absolutely. From shared vulnerability to sensory overload (in the best way), it’s a great way to reconnect.

Final Thoughts on How to Have Shower Sex & Positions

Look, shower sex isn’t always effortless. But when you get the flow right, it can be one of the most sensual, playful ways to enjoy sex.

So next time you feel like spicing things up, skip the dinner reservation and head straight to the bathroom. Just grab your favorite silicone-based lube, pick your position, and you’re ready to get wet.